Before I got sick, I got a chance to do a little exploring. Nothing spectacular or new, but what I really enjoy is talking to the people who live here and work here. Chatting with the some of the stall owners at Albert Cuyp Market was a lot of fun, and they would often give me directions to places most of the tourists wouldn’t know about. Found a lovely little restaurant for dinner because of a fellow selling Miffy dolls (I’ve tried twice to find his stall again to say thank you, but haven’t managed it) and later as I was walking about playing Pokemon Go, I met some really nice kids who were interested to find that I had Pokemon they wouldn’t be able to catch in Europe. They also showed me now to throw a curve ball in the game. I didn’t know about that. Also met some adults playing the same game from not just here, but from all over the world. Meeting people through the game wasn’t something I had expected, but it sure was fun to find a shared interest in it with people from ... well everywhere.
Listening to fellow Americans at the hotel I stayed at before I got to the Bicycle Hotel, like always, makes me cringe. Perhaps I am overly sensitive, but I have always found it rude to criticize a country they’re visiting because it does not work in a familiar way, or in a way that they think it should. Things said without knowing the whole story. I listen to this familiar dialogue, for it is almost always the same in its tone of superiority, and watch the staff cast glances with varying degrees of humor or annoyance. Worse, they hear it so much that, “It is okay, I am used to it,” which means it happens more frequently than just what I am hearing. I said that maybe I am being overly sensitive because when I ask, they say they hear it from many nationalities, not just mine. Being a critical and ignorant voice in a sea of many is still rude for me. I’ve never had the guts to tell my fellow Americans to have a care with their critical words, so in fact that may make me an accessory depending on your view.
Ask, if you don’t understand something, or something seems wrong to you. Clarify the situation or do a little research. Answers or innovations to problems come in many shapes and forms and they do not always look like what you think they’ll look like. I can’t remember who said it, but one of my brilliant classmates on this trip said something only the lines of “giving an answer/solution before asking any questions,” and I hear many answers without questions being asked or the local culture by many people. Not just in our group but also among visitors to the Netherlands. Speculation, but no questions of the native population. It always surprises me how many times that happens. There are ways to ask questions that are uncomfortable without creating a confrontation. I have found that starting with “I’m curious about. ——. May I ask you about that?” Sometimes the answer is no, sometimes yes, but I come away with a deeper understanding of the culture than if I had just observed, asked nothing and made assumptions.
This has been on my mind because we are here to see a different view on how things are done, rather than be critical of the way things are done, when all we are looking at is a window... and not the house as a whole. Tread lightly.